How can i become indifferent

I suggest a bit of writing every day to help you think. Even just scribbling your feelings on a scrap of paper for ten minutes and then throwing it away will help. After about a month of no contact, you will have a better idea how you want to proceed; whether you still want to win your ex back or have further no contact with them.

Take a class, join a club, go to the gym, go hiking or cycling, read some good books, learn to paint or dance or sing, try sailing or bowling, take a trip — anything to stimulate your mind and allow you to have fun, particularly with other people.

By doing this you will be showing yourself that you can be happy and enjoy life on your own. That will make you more confident and therefore more attractive to others.

And by joining a club or taking a new group class at your gym, you will be meeting plenty of lively, interesting, friendly people, some of whom will make good friends and others who might be potential romantic partners. What better place to meet someone fun and interesting than in a fun and interesting social group? Do not send or respond to any pathetic late-night texts. If that's a little confusing, let's put it this way: [1] X Research source There's the you that just does and is.

It's like the baby within you -- this is the first "you. You don't really question it. It's the you just reading right now. Then there's the "you" that is monitoring all this behavior, thinking, making sure it's socially acceptable, making sure you survive, etc. Ever thought to yourself, "My God, why did I eat 5 slices of pizza?! This third "you" is a bit more elusive. It can look at your behavior and thoughts and come to highly-evolved, self-aware conclusions.

This is the "you" we'll be targeting. This you doesn't really feel things or need things -- it just observes. It's indifferent. Think of life like a movie. In order to target this third you, you need to think of life like a movie. That is, you need to be a little less invested in what's going on. Emotions don't really have a place -- or if they do, they only skim the surface and don't have any real repercussions.

What kind of movie are you in right now? Who's in control? What's probably going to happen? If you get this thinking down, you'll start seeing patterns and thinking outside of the box -- less selfishly, more big picture.

For example, right now you're sitting at home, eating a bowl of cereal, surfing wikiHow. What's your character feeling and why? How might that change in the coming days? Watching an emotion, seeing that it's there, is a lot different than feeling it. Know that it's no big deal. Whatever it is. It is no big deal. In the grand scheme of things, few things are. Maybe the eventual collapse of the universe?

That seems pretty huge. But that zit in the middle of your forehead? That comment Trang made that may or may not have been malicious? Nope and nope. Why should these tiny things get any reaction or emotion of out you? When nothing is a big deal, it's hard to be phased. However, it's hard to get happy too. Know that this is a give and take.

In a recent study, those who believed that they had no purpose in life but didn't really care, are middle-of-the-road when it comes to happiness. Open your mind. Being indifferent is about leaving our assumptions, our beliefs, our pride, our emotions and our vulnerabilities at the door. In order to do so, our minds have to be entirely open. Wonder why he thinks that? Any reaction on your part should be merely intrigued -- never offended, angry, or defensive.

When someone personally says something that attacks our belief system, we naturally want to speak up and put that person in their place. Can't do that! You have to keep an open mind and get unattached to your opinions on the matter. So this person thinks something different from you -- good for them! Think of the process behind the content. Whenever you're interacting with others, think of them as their characters.

Think of their background and why it is they're saying what they're saying and doing what they're doing. And when it comes to their words, what do they actually mean? In other words, think of the process behind the content. When someone says, "Hey, ohmigosh, I really have something I want to tell you -- but I totally shouldn't," they're actually saying, "Please give me attention.

I have some gossip and it would give me immense satisfaction if you begged for it. Seeing behaviors for the process makes it a lot easier to address what's actually going on and to remove yourself from the situation at hand. Part 2. Keep your facial expressions to a minimum. Being indifferent is all appearing as if you don't care one way or another. To keep up that impression, it's important not to give away your feelings on your face.

If your words are, "Oh, that's slightly interesting," you won't look indifferent with raised eyebrows, eyes aghast, and mouth hanging open. It's not about reacting negatively or positively or even not reacting.

You're still present; you're still an alive human being. It's just about hearing or seeing something and taking it in calmly and definitely not taking it personally. Sort of like every reaction you have when your little sister's friend starts talking about her potato chip addiction. Mild curiosity at best. Don't let your body give you away. So you've got the facial expressions down -- now it's time to make sure your body matches what your face is saying. Turns out most of body language is just that -- the body.

Even if your words and your face scream "I couldn't care less" but your body makes it clear you're uncomfortable, you're no longer indifferent. Like you're watching a decent movie. You're still engaged, but you're comfortable and stress-free. Certain drugs such as marijuana and narcotics may cause people to be indifferent.

People can also be apathetic because of illnesses such as depression or other brain disorders. However, there may be a more insidious cause.

There is good evidence that people are gradually becoming more narcissistic. We find a growing sense of selfishness in the world. Our pride and unrestrained egos cause us to place ourselves first and everybody else a far second. The result of this self-indulgence is that we are indifferent to everything else that may be going on around us. We end up not caring about the suffering of others. In summary, the causes of indifference can vary and they are powerful. Pope Francis recently expressed his concern about a growth of indifference not just in Western cultures but all around the world.